Overcome Self Doubt and Limiting Beliefs
No one can judge you better than you yourself. It’s something we can be incredibly good at at times. We all feel delusional regarding our capacities at some point or the other, but the presence of self-doubt and fear can stop us dead in our tracks from achieving so much better in life. It can halt you from initiating anything worthy and make you resort to seclusion. Believe me, I’ve seen it and I've even done it. Regardless of the situation, you must catch hold of your inner beliefs and the whispers in the heavens and the universe about you. This is the real work that we’ll all have to do at some point in our life and maybe even multiple times until it sticks.
Here are some tips/wisdoms to get you moving in the right direction:
Eliminate Self Doubt to Improve Self-Esteem
What is self esteem? Self-esteem is an overall judgment of our personal worth. It’s the total of our abilities and capacities in our current perspective. I say current, because self esteem can very well be improved upon. If we are consistently in a state of self doubt, we will naturally produce lower self-esteem. Self doubt is a lack of confidence in oneself and one’s abilities. According to William Shakespeare, ’Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.’ Self esteem and self doubt work inversely and can both be improved upon in relation to one another so that self doubt no longer stands as truth in your mind.
It’s easy to look at a series of failures or negative circumstances and start to believe every negative thing that pops into your head about who you are and what you deserve, but STOP right there. Not one person on this earth that is living and breathing will go through life without experiencing failures but its what you do afterward that counts. Remember, that there is always sunshine after darkness and hold on to that with everything in you. If you’ve felt defeated today, then use it as your stepping stone for tomorrow. You only take an “L” in life when you choose to give up after the battles you face. Keep yourself motivated and try again until you succeed.
Comparing yourself to others is the best way to feed the monster of limiting beliefs and self doubt. Reality Check: There are people who are more successful than you, they may be smarter, prettier or even more talented, but has that stopped anybody? Let others who choose to go down that cycle of comparison do it, but don’t you. Maintain your dignity by setting up your own parameters of success, put your head down and get to the work. Success isn’t overnight I’m sorry, but you have to prepare for it in order for it to be sustained. Because just as you’ve gained it you can also loose it by trying to keep up with the Kardashians (Jones’) so to speak. Our focus should be on our grind and contentment within the journey not everyone else. Believe me, the journey is the most important part. If its festered with blisters that come from comparison, it makes it more painful. Then we start focusing on our sores and the pain than what we truly should be focusing on.
Seek Advice Not Approval
Advice is just that, advice. Advice is given and not considered the end all be all. You take it with a grain of salt, then keep the baby and throw out the bath water. Seeking approval is something different. There are millions of people who seek approval before executing anything feasible. Seeking approval from others can launch you into a spiral of unnecessary doubt every time. Moreover, it’s not likely that others would give approval in a way that matches your heart and vision because THEY AREN’T YOU. Doing things according to the approval of others will only extract your happiness, and cause inferior results.
Stop Caring About What Haters Have to Say
Let the dogs bark. Don’t let people who are filled with negativity ruin your life. Never restrain yourself because of what OTHERS may think about you. Stay cool and calm and try until you succeed. Soon after you are successful, people will come to appreciate you without pondering upon your past failures. The haters will always be there unfortunately, but you have the power to shut down their influence in your life.
Value Your Word as Bond
How does this fit in to overcoming self doubt and limiting beliefs? I’ll tell you. Make your word, your bond. Follow through with promises and be a person of your word. It’s called integrity. Integrity in the way you handle small things, other people and even business. “Once said, means done” is what I personally believe. Follow through on what you say and not only will your value increase to yourself, but others will value who you are. When other’s trust you, you feel that and it boost your self esteem. When you value your words, you value who you are as person playing an integral part in society. Plus, the spoken words behold the entire value of a person.
Lastly, self-discipline can help you overcome self doubt and limiting beliefs. If you are already giving your best, then there is no point feeling as if you can’t accomplish whatever you set out to do. Sometimes failure is not because of outside sources, but its because we get in our own way. Find the discipline to face the giants and biggest hurdles and you’ll never doubt yourself in the same way. Take for instance people who workout, its not always about looking the best but the journey to get there tells a person more about themselves and their abilities than anything else.
Remember, to dust your shoulders off, let things go, and keep it moving. Embrace your inner beliefs and the great purpose your life has. The journey is just as important as the end result. And don’t forget -- once you get there, help someone else overcome their self doubt and limiting beliefs too.